Show your teenager love and care, while looking after yourself.
Supporting your teenager’s mental health is crucial, whether you’re getting along well or facing challenges. Showing love and care, while also looking after yourself, can make a significant difference. Here are four essential tips to help you support your teen and ensure they know you’re always there for them.
Encourage Them to Share Their Feelings
Find opportunities to check in with your teen about their day and feelings. Invite them to join you in a task, like preparing dinner, to create a natural setting for conversation. Remind them that you’re always there for them and want to hear how they’re feeling. Simple words of encouragement can help them feel comfortable opening up to you.
Acknowledge and understand their emotions, even if it’s uncomfortable. Respond with empathetic phrases like, “I understand,” “That sounds tough,” or “That makes sense.” While it’s easy to notice things you dislike, make an effort to praise them for what they do well, even small actions like cleaning up after themselves.
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Take the Time to Support Them
Work together with your teen to establish new routines and set achievable daily goals, such as completing homework before dinner. Adolescence is a time for gaining independence, so give them the space they need to grow.
Encourage your teen to take breaks from their tasks to engage in activities they enjoy. If they feel frustrated, help brainstorm solutions without taking over. This collaborative approach fosters problem-solving skills and independence.
Work Through Conflict Together
Listen to your teen’s views and address conflicts calmly. Avoid discussing issues while angry; instead, take a moment to breathe and return to the conversation later. Avoid power struggles and empathize with their need for control, especially in uncertain times.
Be honest about your own stress and show how you manage difficult feelings. This transparency helps your teen understand that their feelings are valid and teaches them healthy coping strategies. Reflect on how conflicts can be resolved and discuss these reflections with your teen to model effective problem-solving.
Care for Yourself
As a caregiver, you also need support. Demonstrating self-care sets a positive example for your teen. Don’t hesitate to ask for help if you’re feeling overwhelmed. Share your feelings and experiences with trusted family members or friends.
Make time for activities that help you manage stress, whether your day is busy or slow. Engage in positive coping strategies like exercising, talking with friends, planning ahead, maintaining routines, reflecting on gratitude, and enjoying hobbies like music, art, or journaling.
Crimson Heights
At Crimson Heights in Utah, we provide comprehensive mental health services to help children, youth, and young adults facing various challenges. Our team of licensed, trained, and experienced professionals includes psychologists (PhD / PsyD), marriage and family therapists (LMFT), clinical social workers (LCSW / LMSW), ABA Therapists and professional counselors (LPC). With at least 2 years and 1,000 hours of hands-on experience, our therapists are dedicated to promoting mental well-being and helping individuals achieve greater independence. Learn more about our evidence-based practices and how we support individuals with social, communication, and executive functioning needs.
